EverAshley Music: Share Your Comments

Susan Stott - Stacy's Mom

May 9, 2008

Dear Alan and Brenda,

Inspiration to many! Your support and compassion are wonderful and very much appreciated. Thank you for participating in Taylor's Flat Stanley project! It was loads of fun as Taylor and I enjoyed the photos and momentos from the places Flat Stanley visited on your tour. The visit to Taylor's class today with the both of you was great! As a bereaved parent, sometimes it is difficult to imagine finding joy in the little things in life however, today was a moment of great joy for me as I witnessed the look on Taylor's face as we walked into her classroom. She had no idea we were coming which made it priceless and beyond words. I feel fortunate and blessed to know the both of you and thank you from the bottom of my heart for being good troopers in helping out with the class project. Thanks to my "roomie", Linda Riley who helped set up the visit! Another inspirational and compassionate person. This journey has allowed me and my children to meet some pretty amazing people and I am grateful for the support, compassion, and friendships.

My prayers are with you on your journeys to continue the magic of your music with others. Safe travels!

In Friendship
Susan
Stacy's Mom

Lea Anne Kelley

May 7, 2008

Thank you Alan,
I haven't listened to guitar music since we lost our son Darren in Nov, 2006. Music was everything to him, and he was wonderful guitarist. He loved his acoustic guitar, so I didn't know how I would feel when I listened ,to what I now can say, your magical songs. It was hard at first, but as others have said, your songs say what we feel. I also want to say, that all you said in between each song was powerful. A live CD would be a great addition to your collection.
My husband Tim and I are grate
ful that you came to The Compassionate Friends Chapter in Worcester, Mass. Every step we take, is a new step,and we don't know where it will take us because nothing is the same. My husband, my daughter Lynn, my son Brian and I, know Darren is with us. We don't know how it will go from here, but we find comfort knowing Darren is helping to show the way.
Wishing you and Brenda a safe journey, and thank you again.
Lea Anne Kelley

Debbie Hardy

April 29, 2008

Thank you for blessing our group with your music, your life and your daughter, Ashley. I am one of the many bereaved mom's you met in Chattanooga, TN this past weekend. Your music continues to touch my soul and help me find healing. It has been four years since my Janet left me, killed by a drunk driver at the age of 13. I will continue to pray for you as you and your wife as you travel the country and help other parents. We walk a path no parent wants, but we do no walk alone! One of my favorite sayings....For those who have lost a child, no explanation neccessary. For those who haven't, no explanation possible! God Bless you!!
Debbie, Janet's Mommy
http://janet-hardy.memory-of.com

Tammy Hill

April 27, 2008

Thank you so much Alan for all that you do. You did such an amazing job tonight here in Tampa Fl. Your new CD is awesome but of course all your CDs are awesome. You and Brenda have a safe trip and enjoy the next couple of days off. Will see you in St. Louis. Hugs from the Sing Along Lady
Tammy Angel Tyler's Mom

Staci Cody's Mom

April 24, 2008

Hey there! Just wanted to let you and all your followers know that Cody's Website is up and running. And if they have little ones this is the next bedtime story that will have everyone talking!! It's
www.orionpublishing.net. Let me know what you think your opinion means alot to me. Miss you!

Steve Anderson

April 17, 2008

Alan I want to thank you for coming here to North Carolina and sharing your music and message with all of us. I was familiar with your music because my cousin sent me a cd of yours last year so I wasn't surprised at your talent as a singer and a songwriter, you are an excellent performer too. What caught me by surprise however was what an outstanding speaker you are. I learned more about my grief and "going through" the process from you than from any book or person I have spoken to or listened to in the 3 years since my son Ray died. I want people to know that you are more than just a singer and a songwriter which you are amazing at both, but you are every bit as talented as a speaker and your message really helps all of us but especially men who don't often get to hear a mans perspective on grief. Keep up the good work and thanks for all that you give.

Steve

Donna Goodrich

April 16, 2008

Alan and Brenda,

Thank you from all our hearts for coming to Charlotte to perform and talk at our April 15th meeting. Your music, as always, is so inspiring, but your comments reached all the parent's hearts. You are a wonderful speaker and such a tribute to your daughter Ashley's life. We could all feel the spirits of our children as you played and sang. Thanks again for giving so of yourselves to all of us - you are both great.

love and huggggggs,

Donna & Ralph Goodrich,
TCF Charlotte, NC

Marisol Gollnick

April 16, 2008

Dearest Alan & Brenda,

What a pleasure meeting you both, and for coming to our TCF of Brevard Chapter in NC to play. Your stories and inspiring music touched us all. The event was enjoyed by all who attended. Bill and I were especially moved, because it was Jose's 6 year Angel Date Anniversary. I know he ejoyed it and he was smiling down on us as well as all the other children whom we love and shall never forget. Remember that "Mi Casa es Tu Casa" My home is your home now, and you both are welcomed here anytime. We love you and you are a special part of our family. I pray that Ashely keeps giving you those lyrics and you keep playing. God Bless you both in your travels. Hugs and Love...Marisol & Bill-always Jose's mom

Staci Colorado

April 6, 2008

Hey big guy! Just wanted you to know that I finally got Cody's bedtime story published and it is ready for sale!! The book looks beautiful and of course has Cody Orion as the author, how cool is that!! Hope you and Brenda are doing well! Love and miss you!

ken minor

April 3, 2008

I want to thank you for attending and performing at the Marietta TCF meeting this past Tuesday night. Your story and your songs were so inspiring and I know you had a profound affect on everyone in the room. I am the leader of the men's group and each month I tell the men that I attend TCF to honor my son Gary. It really made me feel good when you listed the four (4) H's and one of the H's was HONOR. That really hit home to me. I also tell the men that I attend TCF so that I can talk about Gary's life, NOT about his death. Your spoken words and written words really inspired me.

It was a privilege and a honor to meet you and to hear about Ashley.

May GOD bless you, your wife, wonderful Ashley and anyone else involved in your ministry.

Thanks again,

Ken Minor

Erica Beltz, Luke Jordans Mommy, Marietta Ga TCF

April 3, 2008

Brenda & Alan,
Wow! What a wonderful and Amazing experience it was to have you both visit our Chapter on Tuesday. It was an honnor to hear about your beautful Ashely. The work you guy's do is such a tribute to her. A specail thank you to Brenda I Apperciate all you do and your your love for Ashely radiates in your work and your warm smile. I will take that night with me in my journey forever. My son Luke I felt was sitting in my lap that night. What an extrodinary experience. Thank you both.

Karen Chambers

April 2, 2008

Alan and Brenda, thank you so much for the work you do. It is such a needed ministry and you give so willingly and lovingly. Your music has blessed me - I play it and let it wrap me in a blanket of memory. Of course I cry, but I smile a lot too. Below is a small article I put in our upcoming newsletter about your beautiful concert last night:
All who attended our April 1st meeting were blessed by the words, thoughts and music of Alan Pederson. Alan created for us an intimate setting as he sat among us in our circle, strumming his guitar and speaking with his gentle voice. He immediately pulled us in on a journey together with his first song,"I Remember You": a journey that touched a special place in all of us that allowed us to touch each other and to touch our children as we remembered their beautiful lives. We laughed, we cried, we remembered and we learned. Alan does so much teaching about his own journey and the unifying ties of all our journeys with his words both spoken and through his music. Once again we learn that "we need not walk alone." Thank you Alan for taking on this ministry of the heart. Thank you Brenda for taking it on with him. Don't ya just know Ashley is so proud of you two.
Karen Chamber Marietta TCF

Joyce M. Layton

April 2, 2008

I am the newsletter editor for our local chapter; let me know if you will be close to our area (Jackson, Mississippi), and I can put it in the newsletter. We have our annual balloon lift off in Sept. maybe you will be close then and can come sing for us; it would be great for you to share Ashley with us and us share our children with you. Joyce--Bo's Mom

deborah stevenson

March 31, 2008

I read the article about you in the Compassionate Friends newsletter that a friend of mine gives to me. I found it interesting when going into your website that you speak of the "butterfly bus". My 24 year old daughter, Paige, was killed in an auto accident in 2004 and I had always called her my butterfly girl because she loved them so. She had butterfly sandals, shirts, bags, etc. We incorporated the butterfly into her gravestone along with the words, "our free spirit". Since then I have heard so much about butterflies in the realm of death, grief, remembrance of loved ones. I had to respond after reading about your butterfly bus.

March 30, 2008

This is a poem for friends and family around me.

I'll Admit
By Staci Saliger
Copyright 2007

I’ll admit if this had happened to you
I wouldn't have known quite what to do
I would have fumbled with words or not known what to say
At other times I would’ve just stayed away

Not for lacking of caring or the love that I feel
But for fear of your pain and to accept this is real
Because we are not taught how to grieve from the start
We only learn the steps when the darkness steals our hearts.

I know my dear friend this did not happen to you
And I learn day by day what it is I will do
So please don't say sorry you don't know what to say
Just stand by my side as I look for my way.

Your friendship and love are a strong guiding light
As long as we have friendship……then we will be alright.

Corinne O'Flynn

March 26, 2008

Hi Alan!

I just read that you've slept in 45 different beds since you left Colorado... that is incredible! It also makes me wonder just how ears that have been blessed to hear your music in this period? You're spreading the most wonderful gift... can't wait to have you back here at our event in August!

With love,
Corinne in Colorado
Rowan Tree Foundation

Cheryl Imrie

March 22, 2008

My husband & I lost both our children...2 boys in 22 months. Our oldest, age 24 and the father of 3 girls (5 mos., 1 1/2 yr. & 5 yr at that time) was killed at work 12/21/02. He suffocated in a tanker truck at work - his 6th day on a new job. Then 14 months later our oldest son, age 35, was diagnosed with terminal cancer. We tried everything to save him...he lost that battle 05/27/05. We went to our first National TCF conference in Dearborn, Mi. in 2006. That is where I first heard your songs. I immediately bought the CD, "A Little Farther Down the Road". I played it so much....it is soothing, seems to bring me closer to my boys. I would suggest to any parent who has lost a child to get this CD. Then, you came to the Lake County TCF chapter in Willoughby, Ohio. We went to that event - which was just beautiful. We were able to meet you in person...you are truly a wonderful person. There, I bought another of the same CD...just in case I wear it out!!!..and I got the second CD. I just love the song "Hide & Seek." I listen to these CD's at work with my headphones on (can't disturb my co-workers) and just work away...especially on days when I am down and out. I must get your latest CD, that you mentioned in the TCF online newsletter. Thank you for such beautiful music.

Barb Edwards

March 19, 2008

We lost our 22 year old Danny September 11, 2005. You music has touched my heart in a way that no other act of kindness could come close to! Your "A Little Farther Down the Road" CD was given to me by mom that was fortunate enough to hear you sing and speak while she was in Arizona.
As with so many people that you share your music with, I can so strongly relate to your music.
Thank you so much for putting to words and music so much of the feelings we all experience as this group of parents that have lost children.
Please come west soon!
Thanks again, Barb

Sheila Thompson

March 6, 2008

Dear Alan,
The first time I heard your music I realized I was not the only parent going through such a tragic unexpected event. Your music helps me release my emotions when I can't seem to do that but yet I need to. It makes me feel much closer to my daughter, Carissa. I am struggling this month because it is my first for her birthday and it would have been her 18th birthday. Carissa would have graduated this year from high school. I was so honored to meet you at the release of your 3rd CD. And once again that CD is played often. I want you to know how much you have helped me with your music and thank you for your music. I want to thank your wife Brenda for being such a huge support and helping you accomplish something only certain people such as yourself are able to do. I have always loved music, all kinds, so your cd's are definately at the top of my list. I am hoping to come to one of your events I just have to find the right time. In the mean time if you have any suggestions on celebrating my daughter's birthday, I sure would love to hear about it.
Sheila Thompson
Westminster CO

Rose Padgett

February 24, 2008

I call the day my son was so suddenly taken from us "BlueTuesday" and it will forever live in my heart and mind as the bluest and saddest day I have ever gone through. Glenn, "Junior" was my firstborn and my only son. I don't drive so I had no Grief meeting to go to, but someone sent me the link to get the TCFAtlanta newletters, those along with my church family and my online friends have helped but my greatest help came from reading my Bible and doing a Bible study and gaining strength from God. My motto verse became "Cast All your anxiety on Him because He cares for you." -1 Peter 5:7. During the first few months when people would say "God doesn't put more on you than you can bear", I would flash back at them, "But I think He got me mixed up with someone else"; I have always been told I am a strong person, but since my son's death I KNOW I am and I KNOW WHO gives me that strength!!
My daughter has really had a hard time dealing with her brother's death, they were very close. I am ordering two each of the CDs and would have ordered the third one if I'd found where to order it, One is mine and one for her. I am hoping she will be able to listen to them and gain a peace about her
"Bubba".
You never get over the loss, you just learn to go on...
My son was murdered along with his fiancee in 2005, he was almost 36 years old and Alan you are blessed that you have a grandson by your daughter, my son didn't have any children. All I have are memories..

Linda Schafer

February 23, 2008

Dear Alan,
I love your music. I have two of your cd's which your autographed for me. Every day before going to work I listen to your music. The words have such a special meaning to me. I lost my only child, Kimberly, in 2003. She was only 16 and she died very suddenly. As you know only too well, it is devastating to lose a child. I am now the Chapter Leader for our
Compassionate Friends Group in Worcester, MA. I understand you will be in Worcester on Tuesday, May 6, to perform at Compassionate Friends. I understand one of our
members, Carol, (can't think of her last name at the moment) has been in touch with you about that performance. Our CF's group is so excited and we hope to invite another CF group, along with other bereaved parents.
Your music was played at our National Candle Lighting Ceremony in December. You were a big hit!
Many people asked about you and your cd's.
Life has changed for me now. It is not as happy or joyful but the pain is softer and the memories of my precious child, Kimberly, live in my heart and I know one day we
will be together again.
You and your music are amazing. God Bless You.
Linda Schafer
Compassionate Friends
Worcester, MA.
Home: 10 Thoreau Road
Northboro, MA 01532

Justin Pedersen

February 22, 2008

Hey Uncle,

When I lost my brother Shane November 22, 2006 I thought life as I knew it would be over. Sadly enough that life I had was over. But you thought me that my life is not over and live every day for my brother. I now know I have to tread through hell to get to heaven. I am proud to have you as my uncle and friend.

Justin

Jo Ann Boggan

February 21, 2008

Alan and Brenda,
Tonight was such a wonderful gathering. Your music touches my heart every time I hear your songs and you say just exactly what I feel and have experienced. I hope God blesses you and yours as you continue to share with all of us and help everyone heal. Thanks againfor playing for us in Hearne, Texas, the Crossroads of Texas. Please come back and play for us again.
Jo Ann

Steve Beasley

February 21, 2008

Alan and Brenda,

Thank you so much for your concert. We are a small chapter in Texas, but you treated us with such love and sincerity as if we were the headquarters. You gave us all added hope and fuel to the fire that we need to continue to offer hope to those who have lost a sibling. You were an inspiration to all of us.

We Love You
God Bless you

Steve

ELAINE BEASLEY

February 21, 2008

Alan & Brenda
What a wonderful concert.Thank you so much for coming to our Hearne, Texas. You did a wonderful job. Your Ashley is looking down and saying "Great Job". Please come back agin. Brenda a great job you did also.

Thanks again for sharing your talents with us.

Elaine Beasley
Jarred's mom

Joan Campbell--Lesley's Stepmom & Chapter Leader

February 20, 2008

Dear Alan and Brenda,

What a joy and a blessing to have you both with us last night! From beginning to end, your hearts, your words and your music reached out to our members and our guests, inviting us to share in your journey and offering to share in ours. It was not a performance, but a true gathering of friends! What a wonderful gift you give to others--putting our thoughts and feelings into words when we may not be able to do that for ourselves! Over and over I heard the comment, "He knew exactly the right words for my situation," and "just what we have been talking about in meetings."

I so appreciate BOTH of you for the way you took the time and made the effort to meet everyone and to listen to their stories. The way you connect with people makes all the difference!

As you tour, know that the hearts and prayers of even more friends are traveling with you. We look forward to crossing paths again soon!

Joan

TCF Southwest Dallas County

Staci

February 14, 2008

I have to tell you my dear friend that I drove around Denver for hours just listening to your new CD and you truly touch my heart. The song "Go through" about the grief I felt as if you were talking just to me. You amaze me and the bereaved world is so blessed to have you. I miss my dear friend in Denver, but know you are always in my heart, and I know Ashley and my Cody are so proud of you! Love ya!

Nora Landis

February 6, 2008

I was at the sandiego CF Concert and I was inspired by alan's music I had to buy all 3 cd's & was happy to support such a great cause I am wearing my angels are forever wristband I lost my daughter Megan Ashley Landis on dec 17 2006 to a seizure in her sleep she was also my only daughter I have 2 sons Michael 16 years old and Matthew 12 years old we have a website in her memory called megan-landis.memory-of.com anyone can visit it and light candles it has helped me alot in my healing process I go on her website almost everyday and light a candle it makes me feel good to express my feelings well I just want to say thank you again to Alan and Brenda for visiting Sandiego CF and your music is inspiring and healing to all who have lost a child or loved one your music truly touched my heart

Howard Pedersen

February 3, 2008

I attended the CD release party last night in Denver. What a great time, the dinner and music were wonderful. The new CD will speak to and touch the hearts of any parent that has lost a child. My wife and I listened to it all the way home to Loveland and enjoyed every song. I think that More Songs From the Journey will not only be healing for parents that have lost children, but any friends or relatives of these parents that would like an insight into our struggles will want to buy this CD also.

Somehow Alan, you have combined both healing for parents and insight for those who want to comfort us. What a joy it was to listen to the music in the most beautiful car I have driven thanks to you and Brenda. Love you Brother when you get a break in your journey down the road lets go have one of our brother days...

Howard Pedersen

Bill Lesh

January 29, 2008

You my friend are special.Your honesty outstanding.You not being in nashville, well that sucks. I hope they don't make a mistake by looking for that "rock star" instead of one of us.Your ability to sing and speak from the heart helps all of us more than you will ever know.Can't wait to see you in may until then just follow your heart it will lead you to where we all want to be some day with our ANGEL'S.Rock on dude!TCF Massillon ohio.

Sandy Crawley

January 25, 2008

Alan,you are doing such amazing work, thanks for all that you are giving to those of us who understand loss at its deepest level. When can we order the new CD?

Stacey Owston

January 24, 2008

I am a long time friend of Staci's. I live in Eckley,Colorado (NE Corner). I lost my 12 yr old daughter, Aubrie in a car accident on Aug 27, 2006. So of course, August is a tough month for us. Your song Hard Fall is especially touching. I am so glad that I went to your website. Amazing music! I can't stop crying! Your songs have touched my heart more than you know. I have passed this on to the chapter leader of our local Compassionate Friends group for her to share with all of the others. Good luck on your tour. God bless you and your wonderful gift. You and Staci have a talent that definitely need to be shared. p.s. I too wrote a song after we lost Aubrie. A good friend of mine completed it for me. I will have to pass it onto you sometime. Its called Until I Go To Heaven. Keep smiling and have a safe journey! God bless!!

Alan's Response:

January 23, 2008

Staci Saliger is a dear friend of mine and a brilliant poet and story teller. She has chosen to honor her son Cody by using her gift of writing to help others on thier journey. I have asked her to be a regular contributor here and am hoping she will also submit her beautiful writings to newsletter editors and other websites such at TCF Atlanta Online Sharing. Thanks Staci, your work is amazing....to contact Staci...please email her

stacisaliger@comcast.net

Staci

January 23, 2008

Thought I would share this poem that I wrote.

I Asked God How do you say thank you when your heart feels only pain

When through the rays of sunshine your soul sees only rain

Yet thank you is the words that come each and everytime

When I think about the boy you shared the gift that I called mine

Our days were pure adventure, our night times full of dreams

I never knew those peaceful nights would turn to tears and screams

The day my child was taken back to his heavenly home

Was the day I learned what it truly meant to completly feel alone

Although there were people around me and arms to hold me tight

None felt like my childs hugs and nothing was alright

Even though inside my heart I felt a constant storm

I also felt the love of God and the child that kept me warm

He filled my days with laughter and taught me deep and meaningful love

The kind that only comes from God and his angels hight above

Even though I may be broken and I may never understand

I thank you Lord for that dear boy

The one you shared to hold my hand.

Copyright 2007

Anne Mathieu - Chapter Leader

January 21, 2008

I've checked your calendar and don't see anything scheduled in MA. If you are out this way, our chapter would love to have you visit and share your music with us.

MA/CT Border Towns Chapter

Myra Beckwith

January 21, 2008

Alan, this is a wonderful website. Your music touches so many of us. Good luck on your new tour, I am one of the lucky ones who has seen your presentation of music, it is so touching and helped me feel good remembering. See you in Florida.

Alan Response:

January 21, 2008

Ilma, thanks for your post, you are a little ahead of me on this journey as it will be 7 years for me in August. As time goes by and people think we are "fine" now, it seems the group that is with us on these anniversary dates gets smaller. That is what I love so much about other bereaved parents, they know that years don't erase our loss, and that those dates remain very important to us. My thoughts and prayers will be with you Tuesday, as you remember your precious son Bruce.

Ilma Dickson

January 21, 2008

I'm writing to you from South Africa. I've just listened to some of your songs online, which you recorded in memory of your daughter, Ashley.This month is the 8th anniversary of our son, Bruce's, passing. Tomorrow, Jan 22, would have been his 29th birthday.

Alan Pedersen

January 19, 2008

Welcome to our online sharing and comments page. Please feel free to share any thoughts, feelings, poetry, or insight you have about this journey we walk. This section is for you, I will respond from time-to-time as well as we hopefully provide a wealth of information about grief and loss here. I am looking forward to your comments and sharing.

Blessings,

Alan

Beth Simon

January 17, 2008

Alan,
Cannot wait for your new cd to come out. I think we are probably wearing out the two others. Thank you for coming this past September "2007" to The Livonia Compassionate Friends Chapter and playing for us. It was awesome to see you in person. Your music is inspirational and soothing. Thank you for letting so many of us know we are not alone in this Journey. You did take everyone who was there that evening into a deep place in our grief journey. And last but not least thank you for asking about my brother and my Parent's son, Aaron Robert.

Beth, Bob & Roz Simon

Chris Bobian

January 17, 2008

I'm glad to see you're still making music! It has been way too long since I have seen you guys. We'll have to get in touch soon and do some catching up. I miss you all.

Tyler & Rilee Seebaum

January 13, 2008

Hi Uncle Alan,

We are so excited to hear your new CD. We love your songs!!!! WE LOVE YOU

Dianna

January 7, 2008

Sorry by previous email was
incorrect, my daughter, Kanda,
died on April 13, 2004, not 2007

Dianna Jacobs

January 7, 2008

Why not have short clips of some
of your music as I have no idea
what your music is, it may help
me decide if I would be interesred
in purchasing it. I am a greiving
mother since 4/13/07, lost my 30
year old daughter by drowning in
her bath tub due to a seizure and
I, in checkin gon her, found her.
I am always looking for the perfect
song, one that would relate to my
circumstances, one about a parent,
a mother whose daughter was her
best freind, was her life and how
do I go on without her, I will never be the ME I was prior to her
death, still very angry. Can you
suggest a certain song for me??

Dan and Amy Spier

January 6, 2008

Hi Alan,

Can't wait for the new CD, I see you are out playing for TCF Chapters this spring, you are amazing how much you give, how do you do it? We are hoping to catch you in New Jersey, my wife wants to hop in the car and follow you around the east coast..she and I both think you are one of the best songwriters we have ever heard. Not just a grief songwriter, songwriter period. Folks, this guy is an amazing talent and speaker if you get the chance to have him at your group or event, he will leave you speechless, yet hopeful. The new CD is coming, we can't wait to hear it.

anita harris

January 5, 2008

I would like to go to the event you are having in Frankfort Ky, please email me with the details, and all.. So I can go. Thank You

Jan Pearlstein

January 5, 2008

Alan
My husband and I had the pleasure of seeing you here in Miami when you did a concert for Compassionate
Friends. You signed the two CD's we purchased---Alittle Farther Down the Road and Ashley's Songbook

You asked about my son who had recently been killed---he was a pedestrian walking across the road on 11/28/06 and was killed by an F-150 truck. Your concert and information you gave was very conforting and I listen to the CD's as I am driving down the road.

I could sit and write the words by going back and forth on my MP3 player and computer but if you could download the words from those 2 albums then I would be able to learn and sing along with you.

I have checked your calendar for 2008 and there are three places where we can come see you. Baltimore, Maryland where my daughter lives; St. Louis, Mo. where my step-children live and Boca Raton, FL which is close enough to Miami for us to drive up for the concert. If I would be able to see you at all three this year, that would be a great gift.
Also, glad to hear you have a new CD coming out.
Thank you so much for your inspiring words.

Thanking you in advance
Jan pearlstein

Jo Ann Gellman

December 29, 2007

I would like to inquire about having you come to our chapter meeting in Potomac Maryland.

Mary Morrow

December 26, 2007

Dear Alan,
I have met you a few times in Omaha and then in Sioux City when Kelly Pelster and a few others came to hear you with me. My 10 year son died of a brain stem tumor in 2004 and my first meeting at Compassionate Friends was in 2005 when you came to play at a meeting. I bought Forever Ashley and A Little Further Down the Road at that time. I have told you that all of your songs comfort me beyond all I could ever imagine but now I am in a different place in my life and you are once again there for me. You see, my husband, Jim,50, was killed in a car accident on Nov. 21st and so once again our lives are forever changed. I am now listening to your music in a new way and receiving the same comfort and even alittle more. I thank you for your gift that you share with all of us and know that I am waiting for your new songs to make a part of my life. Kelly shared your poem with me and I see that you are starting to record today and I wish you great hope and peace.
Mary Morrow

Howard Pedersen

December 19, 2007

Hi, Al thanks for everything you do and stand for,I am so proud to call you my brother. It has now been 13 months I have had to live without my oldest son and best friend Shane Daniel Pedersen. Thanks for being in my corner at every turn. I love you brother...Howard pedersen

Robin Tuiskula

December 19, 2007

Dear Alan,
I too lost my daughter Ashley, at age 18 due to someone's neglect. This was definitely a life changing event, nothing has been the same since then. My other daughter turns 18 tomorrow. We had a chance to hear your CD at our local Candle lighting. Your songs are wonderful and so helpful.
Thank you for your work, we are so sorry about the loss of your daughter, maybe both the girls are comfort for each other.
Robin Tuiskula

Gail Schroeder

December 19, 2007

Dear Mr. Pedersen: You had written me with a wonderful opportunity for my chapter of The Compassionate Friends in Boca Raton, Florida. I had tried to respond to your e-mail but it was sent back. I am hoping to contact you through your guestbook on your site.

Linda Schafer

December 17, 2007

Dear Alan,
I just received your two CD's and they were beautiful. My daughter, Kimberly, also died in August at the age of 16. I especially liked the song about Getting Through August. That song truly touched my heart. You are a remarkable songwriter. At our National Candlelighting we played many of your songs and at 7:00 pm we played Tonight We Hold This Candle.
All 100 parents held their candles to heaven.
I am sorry for the loss of your preciously Ashley. May she, my daughter Kimberly and all the other children gone too soon always walk with us and give us the strength and courage to go on.
Thank you.
Linda Schafer

Alice Watts Chapter Leader and Regional Coorinator of FL

December 16, 2007

I enjoy your music so much I had a guy sing and play one of your songs for our Candle Light Service.
It will be awhile but I am hoping to have a Regional Conf. in Fl sometimes. Maybe I can meet you in Nashville. I will also be in Atlanta in February.
Alice Watts, Chapter Leader for The Lake Area/Keystone Heights chapter. This is located 20 miles fron Gainesville and 50 miles from Jackosnville.
Alice

Varda

December 13, 2007

I saw you at several TCF Conferences. I use your music all the time, especially the one about having the Compassionate friends help you through the hard times and the candle song I don't really know the names of the songs). Thank you for giving us your music in loving memory of Ashley. I accept it in loving memory of Lauren. Keep up the good work. We need. you
Varda

Staci Colorado

December 11, 2007

Hey there! When do you come back home? Someone in Colorado really needs your strength and guidance so get home soon! ;-) Miss ya!

Eileen

December 10, 2007

Alan, I, too, was one of the lucky recipient of the two CDs from you via Atlanta Online. I loved the CDs so much that I ordered two more to give to couple special friends and they(twenty years in missing forever 16,Thomas) loved them. Thank you so much. We miss our daughter, Jill, but know that we will see her again.
On earth, peace, hope, always
Eileen, from Lodi, CA
Jill's Mom

Robyn Nichols

December 7, 2007

Hi Alan,looks like you are still very busy.Just wanted to stop in and wish you and your family a
Gentle Christmas season. Looking forward to your new songs in 08.
Just me,
Robyn,from Connersville,In
Mom of Justin and Malori

Cecile

November 28, 2007

Alan, Just a few words of thanks. I so appreciated and enjoyed your gift of a performance at the Marin TCF on 11/20. Cecile

Elgin

November 26, 2007

Trying to find some music that will work for the National Candlelighing for The Compassionate Friends of East Texas in Longview Texas. Any comments or Lyrics would be appreciated. Thank You

Scott Nance

November 16, 2007

Hello Alan, My name is Scott Nance and a friend of mine gave me your CD when you were in Oregon about two years ago. I lost my daughter Carrie in August 2004. I have been working on the words for a song and would like to see if you could help me put it together?

Please feel free to contact me and we can go from there.

Clay and Louise Finch

November 16, 2007

I think that I have come close to wearing our your cd that my wife purchaced after one of your concerts for BPUSA in Woodbridge, Virginia. We are 6 yrs out from the death of our son and his girl friend. I find your songs quiet inspiring and helpful within the grieving process. We both know that the LORD was there holding us and guiding us in all that we had to do He spoke to us, Without our faith and his held we never would have made it, so many don't . Your songs and music only magnify your faith and love for your daughter. But they also bring a bright light to those who hear and listen to your music. God Bless and we are both looking forward to your next concert in March 2008

Jean Limongello

November 14, 2007

Thank you, Alan, for sending the two CDs of your music. The songs are beautiful, and a tribute to your enduring love for Ashley. I didn't expect a reward for contributing to Atlanta's on-line newsletter's need. However I am grateful for your music, (I'm playing Ashley's Songbook now). Ashley is proud!
Sending love from a Compassionate Friend,
Jean Limongello
Mom of Anthony "Duke"

Staci COLORADO

November 13, 2007

Hey you! Don't forget where home is, we miss you!! Love ya!

Betty & Dan

November 11, 2007

Alan,

Hi! We're looking forward to the CD's. We'd like to personally thank you for making that CD challenge to help Jayne & Wayne meet the $$ owed in this very unfortunate situation. Thank You!

Betty & Dan

Bob Gordon

November 7, 2007

Met you this past fall while you were on tour. I played your song "Tonight I Hold This Candle" at my son Michael's Foundation Police True Blue Awards Ceremony, honoring heroic officers in his name. We had a short candle lighting ceremony for those who lost officers In the Line of Duty or any friend or relative. You could hear a pin drop in the room filled with over 300 people. Thank you for your music from the heart.

Gavin Bistram

November 6, 2007

Saw my picture on your website. I like it !!!

Kathy Hoffman

November 3, 2007

Alan it was wonderful to meet you and your son A.J on thursday at the solano meeting of TCF. My loss is new, but your music and zest for life gave/give my hope of survival. I hope we have the pleasure to meet again someday. I will be passing your name and music on to all those I meet, who unfortunately are walking our walk

kathy hoffman
mom of Kevin chipman
(5/9/89-7/9/07)

Carol Mertz

October 24, 2007

Alan,

My precious son Brian Andrew Fetterolf was killed by a drunk driver while riding his motorcycle on 9-8-06. My heart is still grieving and very heavy. I went to a Compassionate Friends meeting and met others who share this heartache. That is when I first heard your song "Tonight I Light This Candle". It is probably one of the most beautiful songs I ever heard. Thank you for sharing it with all of us bereaved parents and I am also sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter.

God Bless, Carol Mertz
(Brian, forever in my heart)

Lindzy Foster

October 21, 2007

My husband and I attended your concert at our monthly Compassionate Friends meeting in Sept in Sioux City, IA. I just wanted you to know that it was beautiful and touching, I purchased some bracelets for myself and my mom and i wear mine everyday along with my compassionate friends bracelet, they will never be taken off. Your music is so beautiful, I especially loved the Candle Lighting song and the butterfly song. We have had several visits from our daughter thru butterflies this past summer, whenever my older children see one they always know their sister is near. I plan on ordering one of your CD's and am passing along your website to my other bereaved parents online groups.....thank you for your help and healing thru your music. Your precious Ashley will forever be in my heart.
Blessings,
Kaydence Hope's mommy,
Lindzy Foster

Bill & Vicki Lagemann

October 9, 2007

Alan:
Just wanted to let you know again how much we truly enjoyed the concert at Jeff & Cindy's. I know that it meant so much to our grandchildren, Sami & Austin. They love the CD and I know they will think of their daddy and your Ashley each time they listen to it. What a wonderful ministry you have in sharing your grief journey with those of us who have and are experiencing the same thing.
God Bless you.
Donnie's parents,
Bill & Vicki Lagemann

Barbara Russell

October 8, 2007

Alan you and Brenda have been on my mind ever since Chicago and unfortunately for me, I was in spirit only at Oklahoma City due to complications. Now if you have forgotten, I'm here to let you know that the "B&B" is awaiting your arrival with mints on your pillow (I'm hoping Brenda can make it in spite of what she said) and my piano is tuned for you...don't even think about any other place to rest your weary head! I've heard all about the conference that's being planned and I will be attending it. Could you tell me how I can get in touch with you so I can find out exactly what your ETA is when we get closer to the March date? I have some ideas for you to attend some live music in the city that you might not want to miss out on. Let's discuss in detail, o.k.? please let me know if you are going to fly in. I can pick you up as I'm closer to LGA than Elaine is. Your music is my car companion, or did I tell you already. so much gratitude, bj

Samantha Lagemann

October 7, 2007

Alan,
Hi, its Samantha. I was at Cindy and Jeffs concert!I got a braclet and my father was the one who drond in the lake.I love Ashleys Song Book.It is so life toching. Hope you remember me.
God Bless You!
Love,
Samantha Lagemann

Linda Elliott

October 6, 2007

Dear Alan: Even though I have not had the opportunity to hear your music or attend one of your performances (I live in Houston, TX) just knowing that you are bringing so much comfort to other beraved parents makes me feel like I have been a part of it.

May many blessings and love continue to strengthen your life and work and I will pray for your beautiful Ashley.

Sincerely,
In loving memory of my daughter,
Rhonda Elliott Gray

Greg Klocke

October 5, 2007

Alan,
I truly enjoyed your concert at Cindy and Jeffs the 28th of September. It helped my family though our third angel date on the 30th.The car show we had the next day was awsome.Brian's
daughter,Alyssa really likes your music.She plays it a lot.
Hope to see you next September.

Greg Klocke
Miss ya B

Jessica W.

October 3, 2007

Thanks for sharing your incredible music and wonderful words at our TCF meeting last Thursday. My husband has never attended a chapter meeting but he decided he would go if he did not have to speak. Alan, he cried, he laughed with you and after the meeting we talked deeper about our grief than we have been able to in a long time. You are an inspiration to so many of us, and your songs are so great. Thanks for all you do for TCF, how generous of you.

Sharon Staniforth

September 30, 2007

Thank you for a spectacular program on September 22, 2007 in Madison, Wisconsin. Your songs and words were a celebration of life and precious memories. Your music speaks to the heart and sings to the soul. We are so blessed to have met you. Thank you for sharing with us...we hope you can come back sometime.

Mitch Carmody

September 30, 2007

Hey Road dog I. I miss the road!!! ...and miss you already. We had a great few days you and I along side our Kelly and Ashley. I will not forget it any too soon my friend. Lots of magic in the air despite all the despair. Your wonderful tender soul spoken songs touch so many, I was so proud to perform with you. I will always think of Ashley when I see or smell oranges. You are a good Dad. I hope you had a good cry after Rochester, part of the wall I think...you deserve one.
Love and light
Road dog II

Diane Fisk

September 27, 2007

I attended your concert tonight not knowing what to expect. I left amazed that bereaved parents have their very own superstar. Your talent level as a songwriter and a singer is incredible, you would be successful in the music world whether you were bereaved or not. We are lucky that you choose to write songs for us and share your music and journey. When I met you, I truly believe that I met a gift from God. You inspire, entertain, and provide a very healing source to the hurting. God bless you Alan

Jean Lynn

September 21, 2007

Alan,

I really enjoyed the concert Monday. God has really blessed you in your talent and work. Looking forward to the release of your new album and tour next year.
God Bless,
Jean

Martha Garner

September 12, 2007

I met you in Caro Monday night. It was my first TCF. My son was a guitar picker and wonderful singer (although I didn't always appreciate it). Many times I said, stop playing that thing! I regret that so much now! I haven't enjoyed a guitar being played in the 5 months he's been gone. I wanted to thank you for sharing yourself and your music with others. Your music helps and comforts me on my journey. Thank you.
MBG

Lisa Merz

September 11, 2007

You were at TCF balloon launch in Caro on 9/10 - thank you - your lyrics, although difficult to listen to at times, really spoke volumes about our losses. You put my feelings into words. Thank you again and God Bless you in your travels.

Diane Shank & Shelby Arxher

September 9, 2007

We just got home from your concert in Mt.Pleasant Michigan. Just wanted you to know hoe much we enjoyed listening to you. We came to listen to you in memory of our niece and cousin Ashlee Eve Cook who was killeg in a car accident on 1-26-2004.God bless you for the incredible work you do. Thank you so much!

Bill Lyon

August 29, 2007

Alan - Greetings from the Baltimore Chapter BPUSA. My wife Anne and I really enjoyed your songs, your playing, and your singing at the July conference in Chicago. Thanks for being there and for all that you do. - Bill

Greg Maxwell

August 28, 2007

To my dearest friend Alan,
It all began 5 years ago through a cruel twist of fate. The death of our daughters Amanda and Ashley brought us together through TCF, and birthed a friendship in the depths of our pain. Through it all, we have been there for each other. Words cannot describe the journey we have walked, but the result is a deep lifelong friendship, a beautiful gift indeed.
As a songwriter, you are an absolute genius. Without a doubt, your music greatly helped me survive the death of my precious daughter Amanda, and continues to this day to heal and inspire me. Your gifts and talents to a world of people in unspeakable pain are immeasurable.
Continue to follow your heart, dreams and passion. I know your future will have no bounds. Thanks for being there for me.
I love you, Greg

Alan

August 20, 2007

Your music continues to speak to my heart. I lost my 2 1/2 year old son suddenly over 3 years ago. I saw you perform at the National last year in Dearborn. I was so hoping to see you at our Livonia, MI chapter meeting on September 6th, but will be out of town.
Thank you for what you do and for sharing with us the gift that you have. I am sure Ashley is so proud of everything that you do.

Laura Cook

August 13, 2007

Dear Alan,

I met your sister Kim this summer because our daughters were on the same t-ball team, and it turned out to be a true blessing. My 17 year old niece was tragically killed in car accident on June 19th which has left our family with an enormous hole.

Kim was so kind to me and quick to share with me your story and experience in dealing with the death of a child. As you are aware, my sister is struggling to get through each day without her precious daughter. Kim gave me some "goodies" to share with her last night... magazines, newsletters, and best of all two of your CD's. I am excited to be able to give this to her and I believe it will offer her some enormouse help she will need on this life long journey.

I wanted to send a special thank you for the information and hope to bring my sister to some Compassionate Friends meetings soon.

I will continue to watch your event calendar in hopes that we may meet you in person one day here in Denver!

Thanks again!

Laura Cook

Tammy Hill

August 4, 2007

Alan
I wanted to tell you Thank You!! Your music touched my heart and meeting you was such a humbling experience. Your heart felt lyrics and stirring melodies speak straight to the grieving soul. Plus it is amazing to hear the transition in your music as you travel "a little further down the road". I bought the cd as well. It is a chord that provides healing and hope. I probably enjoyed your narrative at how you arrived at the song almost as much as I enjoyed your music. You were and are a blessing to a grieving community. You travel all over singing your songs for Ashley and meeting so many people, yet the first thing you said to me at the gathering was..."Tell me about your son Tyler.” Thank you for letting so many of us know we are not alone in this Journey. Hope to see you soon in Tampa again.
Hugs Tammy Tyler's mom

rachel Cortest

August 4, 2007

Since I met you at the TCF conference in ok city, your music has helped me grieve the loss of my 15 year old son. I listen to both of your c.d.'s in my car daily. In the evaluation of the conference, I wrote that you were the best part of the conference. I would love to hear you sing the song about the candlelighting in person. Your love for Ashley is evident in your lyrics. You are an amazing artist. I am thrilled to know that Ashley had a son. I just saw that on your website. What a gift!!! Tomas died in May of 2006 of suicide. He was a beautiful sensitive musical child. Thanks for the gift of your music, rachel cortest

Tammy

August 3, 2007

What a gift you have! Thank you for allowing your gift to minister to so many others.

Blessings,
Tammy, Colin's mom

Tammy

August 1, 2007

THANK YOU for playing at the Omaha Butterfly Release. It was our first TCF event and despite the rain (or maybe b/c of it) it was a special evening. God Bless You!

Linda & Ray Bates

July 31, 2007

What a blessing you were to us at the National Conference in Chicago.We bought a cd and love all your songs. I hope we will be able to have you with us in Arkansas again since we missed you in Fort Smith. We enjoyed chatting with you and your lovely wife. God has given you aspecial talent to sing and write about grief which allows others to feel their own feelings instead of hiding them. I think I am a perfect example of that. I realized at the meeting I had done a lot of faking instead of honest grieving. God bless

Jodi Norman

July 28, 2007

Alan, You are AWESOME!! Thank you for being at the BP/USA National Gathering in Chicago!! You touched so many grieving hearts with your wonderful music!! I know Ashley is very proud to have you as her dad!! Keep singing for Ashley! Love you, friend!

Degie Foskey

July 28, 2007

I wanted to tell you Thank You!! We meet in the Book Store at the National TCF Conference in Oklahoma City. Your music touched my heart and meeting you was such a humbling experience. You travel all over singing your songs for Ashley and meeting so many people, yet the first thing you said to me was..."Tell me about Ryan." I have been listening to "A Little Further Down the Road" CD to and from work on top of at my desk while I am working. I have this bitter sweet sense while listening to the songs that touch so many hearts. Thank you for letting so many of us know we are not alone in this Journey.

Linda

July 23, 2007

I did not get the opportunity to meet you in Oklahoma City as there was always a line of people waiting to talk to you and get your autograph on their CD when I came by. I just want you to know that your music is helping so many of us to heal. Music was hard for me to listen to. A friend bought your CD Farther down the road for me when you were in Kentucky playing a concert. I wore out the copy she gave me so I bought a new on and also you CD of Ashley's songs. I think it is so wonderful that you take the time to talk to people and I wish I could have met you there but I will in the future I know. My son Jacob died in 2002 in a car accident. Thanks for all you do, you write wonderful songs.

Jerry & Beth Reynolds

July 22, 2007

Alan
Thank You so much for sharing your music and your story of Ashely at the 2007 BPUSA National Gathering. Toby greatly enjoyed your interaction with the siblings.
We will enjoy your CD's for years to come and to hope see you at another Gathering.
Jerry, Beth and Toby

Carol Welch

July 21, 2007

Alan
What a pleasure to hear you at the 2007 BPUSA National Gathering in Chicago IL. Your heart felt lyrics and stirring melodies speak straight to the grieving soul. Plus it is amazing to hear the transtition in your music as you travel "a little further down the road". It is a chord that provides healing and hope. I probably enjoyed your narrative at how you arrived at the song almost as much as I enjoyed your music. You were and are a blessing to a grieving community. Peace to you and your lovely wife.
Remembering Ashley, Sean and all of our beautiful children,
Carol Welch
Lake St. Louis, MO

Sharon Krejci

July 20, 2007

Hi Alan,
My husband and I loved your music at the 2007 Bp/USA National Gathering. Thanks so much for sharing Ashley, your talent and beauiful music.
Hugs from Ashley,
Sharon

Douglas Jerdo

July 20, 2007

Alan- Thank you for letting me share my story about the poem/song I had written for my son Joshua( work shop- Healing through Creativity)Certainly helped validate the memory of my son. Song can be found by Yahoo or google search-memory of. com Joshua Jerdo also Lindsay's story can be found that way. I thank God for giving you the gift of music to help other bereaved parents through their grief journey. Thanks -the sound man Doug..

Cathy Bender/Las Vegas BP/USA Chapter

July 20, 2007

alan, it was a pleasure to listen to your music, and enjoyed your humor. thanks for being a part of this year's gathering in Chicago! hope to see you again at a future one!